Dating a guy who is shorter
Meredith: I'm a trans woman who's 5'5", so average height for women in the States and shorter than most trans women I know.
I just didn’t think my height was an issue until I researched it. Writing all these articles on being Asian, short, and introverted has made me somewhat insecure. I guess I’m totally late again, or perhaps I simply forgot about this issue, or maybe I’ve just been too busy living my life...
If it holds true that shorter men don’t have as many dating opportunities, if nothing else, I think shorter men would try harder to be funny, caring, empathetic, honest, hardworking — and just be a gentleman.
In that case, the rationale might be that they are more loyal.” Short men , “The female preference for tall partners may present an increased risk of desertion or cuckoldry (paternity by another male) to shorter men.” But, Au notes, the historical and even evolutionary preference for taller men may be misguided.
However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.